What are you scared of the most? The truth of the matter is that we all have something that we fear. It is a shame though, that we allow fear in our lives in such a way that …that blocks our own path to whatever success it is we are dreaming of. Fear has been placed there for us, to be controlled. Let that be society? Let that be anything in life, we sometimes use FEAR to control the other person. Ever hear a mother “blackmail her own child? You know…stuff like, (going to use my own life example with my dog) “Stop running or the DOG Will BITE YOU!”….and I’m like WTF? What are we teaching our children? That child, unfortunately, will grow up to have FEAR of dogs. What a shame. This is an example of FEAR being used in our lives to control us.
I say, screw FEAR. You only live once!
While some individuals are braver than others, some are fearful as they say, for the rest its hard to get over some fears we already have.
Tips on overcoming some of your fears
Let me give you a couple of tips that maybe I can inspire you to not fear of fear too much. Especially when it comes to your life’s career goals. I for example, had a fear of “what will my parents say”… in my life career choices. I had the feeling they had control over my career, trying to keep dad proud, and doing what they thought was best for me at the time. Not saying they weren’t the right choices for me, but I wish once, they had said, “Dimitri, go ahead, follow your dreams.” They felt at the time, I should be part of the corporate world, and make sure I have security for my future family etc. My god, you can’t imagine the pressure in this. Being in an environment that I just felt imprisoned, and at the same time, trying to keep everyone happy, except for my own self. What a shame, but I can’t regret any of those years, or else i wouldn’t have gained all this experience and knowledge to carry my own-self in this amazing journey I’m currently in. But it all started with FEAR, and me Over coming my Fear. My first tip is to Face them Head on.
Face fear head on!
One of the quickest and most efficient ways to overcoming fear is to face it head on in your life. Get past that stage of thinking WHAT IF.. What if I lose my job, what will happen to me. I can tell you something , but please believe me. NOTHING will happen. You will be fine, as long as you have control of yourself and your choices are not affected by others. You believe in something, why not go ahead and do it. Why sit there and discuss this with others that are not on the same state of mind that you are. Imagine you are hanging around with some friend of yours that keeps on saying, “I can’t do this, I can’t do that, Its hard, it’s not easy” etc. My god, that would drain me to the fullest. You can’t be around those people. I’m sorry , you will need to be harsh, and cut the line. Stop having people tell you , you can’t do it, due to their own experiences. That’s got to suck. They got to do it, but you won’t cause your SCARED? .. come on….Seriously?
I had a fear of blogging. Basically, I had the fear of what will people say about what i’m saying.
I always felt I had to care about what others think. Then I had my own awakening. Why should I worry about what others are thinking? I decided to stop that…I stopped caring of what others thought, when I found my own niche of people who were like me. Its amazing once you start blogging , you start connecting with people of the same likes, dislikes, or just the type of lifestyle you are compatible to. I’ve found so many of my own people, I don’t have the fear of writing another blog post about my own experiences. I know my experiences are helping others along the way. Maybe like an inspiration, to keep on going. Whatever situation you in, you will only find that each of these experiences will make you stronger for the next.
Acknowledge your fears
One of the best ways to overcome a fear is to acknowledge it. Don’t be ashamed of your fear. Know that it is real and it does exist in your life , but don’t try and hide it from others. If for example you are afraid of heights or tight spaces, that is nothing to be ashamed of – it is simply part of who you are. Let others know your fears but only if you trust them completely. And, if others find out your fears and try to use them against you, just ignore them. Believe me they disappear.
You really need to take action into your fears. Look I’m not going to be a hypocrite here and say that if someone dared me to bungy jump, I’d go and bungy jump…no way. I have a fear for that, however, I don’t have a fear, of going a downhill road , in the middle of a busy street, with cars on my roller blades, reminding you I’m 36 not 16. I can do that, cause i trust myself in that situation.
The problem with bungy jumping is that I don’t trust the person that tied that knot at my feet. You get my point. You can get ahead of your fears, if you find someone who has gone through whatever it is you want to get through, take action and trust that person to guide you.
Once you have acknowledged your fears and faced them head on, continue to take small action steps daily to keep those fears in check. Stay away from thinking the worst of the situations, and start changing your mindset on things in your life. As an example of myself in the online marketing world, having a mentor actually helped me get passed fearing the online marketing word. It’s a big world out there, and you can find yourself spending a whole lot of money if you don’t know what you are doing. I’m grateful, I didn’t get myself into that situation, I was lucky enough, (even though i don’t believe in luck) to find my own mentor and to guide me into finding the proper networks to join so I can make my career in the online marketing business.
You can do anything you want.
Don’t be afraid to choose something new to do in your life. . You can’t be fit if you sit on that couch. You can’t make money online, if you are just playing video games. A lesson learnt. I’ve spent most of my life having a good time, but not making money out of it. I was spending rather than making. I came to a point in my life, that when I got fired from my 9-5 corporate job, I took back control of my life. I had to make choices that were not in my parents hands anymore, I had to sacrifice a lot of my “leisure” time, so I can get my own business set up. It all started with a blog, and now its a proper online business where I’m here to help others, find a solution to their lives, following what I’m doing. This might not be for everyone, it’s for the ones that want to make a change in their lives, that they have that itch to do something with their own passion.
Life is simple don’t make it complicated
Life is simple really. You just have to keep it simple. Too much worrying, and too much “what’s going to happen to me in the near future” , isn’t helping anyone out. Especially yourself. Live the present … tomorrow is another day, and believe me when you start being aware of how your day went, and how much gratitude you should give it, the next day shows you something NEW something , different. Something FOR YOU.
Every day could be a gift for you.
This only happens when you are aware, and you use the law of attraction in your life. Don’t be naive, you know this works. I know it works, I’m currently practicing it like its second nature. My mind is a very powerful tool. Your mind is a powerful tool. Beware of what you are thinking….that’s why they say, stay positive think positive, don’t attract all that other “shit” in your life. You need to keep your mind clear or trash. It all comes down to how much you can believe in this. So having saying all that…don’t be afraid to “Subscribe” below, or “ask” me for some help you might be needing. I’m not an expert, or someone with a degree in life, but you don’t have to be to pass some positive vibes to the people who are reading this! Especially, to motivate others to get themselves out of the “shit” and start doing something with their own passion.
YOU CAN’T SIT THERE AND TELL ME YOU DONT HAVE SOME KIND OF PASSION!
Why are you not doing it? …What’s your excuse? Cause that’s what it is. Just an Excuse. Step out of your comfort zone, start dancing like there’s not tomorrow, even if you don’t know how to dance. Felt I needed to pass this out to people who are contemplating on their next move. Just do it! You can do it, because you deserve it, just like every single person on this planet. So, there you have it, What are you scared of? Get over it, will ya? Ask yourself this, What’s the Worst that could happen? I bet you can’t even answer that question….
dpapa to living a flip flop life!
thank you 🙂
I love your blog and website. It is beautiful and packed with awesome information. Thanks for stopping by my website. Have a wonderful day and keep sharing these great resources.
Will do Sanika 🙂 Thank you!
Amazing article 🙂 Do check out my new poem! And my article “TRY” is related to this article.
Really enjoyed reading this and could totally relate to being guided to the ‘safe’ side of life. Young people need to grow into themselves and during that process – older people (often through kindness), ‘stunt’ them by advising them to lead safe lives. When I told my family I wanted to be an artist, nearly all of my older relatives said, “Well, you’ll only be famous when you die”. I didn’t want to be an artist to be famous, I wanted to be an artist because I loved art. Thanks for the inspiring and thought-provoking post. Michael
Hi, thanks for following my blog! This post couldn’t be more relevant for a “new” graduate like me who has been trying to figure things out. You’re right, there’s no point in worrying over things you can’t control and let fear of the future keep you from accomplishing what it is you want to do!
We’re full of excuses to avoid facing fears. But you are right, we only live once and what’s the worth that could happen? Thanks for this amazing post and for following my little blog.
This is a great post because a fear can be difficult to get over. Nice to have some strategies to follow. I also want to thank you for following my blog!
Hi TCT, 🙂
haha, thanks…i felt about that “get out of my mind” with a lot of people blogging etc. 🙂 I actually did paragliding twice in Cyprus. Was very nice, very quiet up there, the only thing you hear is the squeeking of the rope on the metal clip…that made me clinch on so much just “incase” the rope snapped.. haha..too funny. My arms were so sore after that ride..that’s for sure.
Thanks for your comment. Very meaningful
Firstly thank you for following my blog, nice to know that it’s not just me reading my post 🙂
and secondly, GET OUT OF MY MIND!! Kidding! It’s just that I felt like a huge part of that post hit the spot in regards to how I’ve been feeling about starting up my own blog.. I know it’s only been 1 mth, but wow, there is seriously a truck load of information to take it.
So like you say, stay positive, think positive.
I’ve been travelling for 15 years (living a flip flop life of my own) and it feels so natural to me now, so i’m happy to give my blog the time and energy that it needs to grow too!! Looking forward to reading more post from yourself.
Ps: I wouldn’t do skydiving either, but paragliding is just a beautiful way to get up with the birds and enjoy the smooth ride!! I’ll post about it someday 🙂
Nina, you can’t imagine how grateful i am that you posted this. This is exactly what i mean. See? Didn’t you find your following ? Don’t people like what you write? Don’t they engage with you? Everyone can do this…and its a great thing when you get acknowledged for it!
Hi, thanks for following my blog! This post caught my eye right away as getting over a fear is something I did quite recently — when I started my own blog less than a week ago. There’s a lot of truth in your text, about how we should acknowledge our fears and face them, even if it makes us uncomfortable. It took me a long while to finally decide I was going to go “public” with writing, publishing a novel and blog and all, because I was afraid everything would magically go wrong if I did. Surprise surprise, I’ve posted twice and my first novel is just about done, and nothing bad happened. On the contrary, I feel great! So I definitely understand the idea behind this post, and hopefully others will read it and try to overcome their fears of doing what they like. Also I just have to say that I love the “Living a flip flop life!” tagline. Keep up the good work 🙂